Romantic love is often referred to as an addiction. It’s a wonderful addiction when everything goes well—the bliss, the elation, the feeling of “I cannot do anything without thinking about you.” The feeling of “I think about you constantly; I cannot eat or sleep and am always thinking about you!” You’re the person I last think about at night and the person I first think about every morning. Right?
I think of you all day. I am on cloud nine. My heart is full and pounding. My heart skips a few beats when I see your name on my phone. I also think of you while at work or between tasks. I am blissfully happy and distracted! Heaven! I love life and am blissfully happy! Sex is high on the agenda; with intense romantic feelings of attachment. Romantic love is the ultimate happiness.
It can be very difficult to recover from a romantic love experience. It’s a tough place to be.
She and her doctors, based on a documentary made by Dr. Fisher, followed 15 people who had been “dumped.” All 15 individuals were placed into a brain scanner. Fisher wanted to know if drug addicts had brain activity that was linked. They found this to be true.
A recent study showed that the MRI scans of 15 people who had been thrown out looked very much like a brain under drugs. The same brain regions are activated when cocaine is taken.
Love is a powerful addiction. Fisher says that on the way up, it’s amazing, but when it goes down, it “sucks.”
This addictive emotion is often the basis of crimes committed around the globe. If you are having sex with a person you don’t love, it does not matter if they get with someone else. When you love someone and they cheat on you, you feel emotionally shattered and ripped apart. You may even become obsessed. The emotion can make you sick. Trauma and emotions of distress are terrible.
In terms of reproduction, humans have evolved three distinct brain systems. One is sexual desire; another is intense romantic love; and the third is deep attachment. Fisher says that they can all be addictions, but “romantic” love can be the most dangerous because it can cause the brain’s dopamine system to be stimulated. This gives you energy and motivation. You keep thinking about it. Like when you’re addicted to drugs, you’ll find yourself repeating the same thing over and over. Nobody is spared. We will all feel heartbreak at some point. Heartbreak is an overwhelming feeling, which can often be out of control.
The Good News!
The evidence has shown that it does improve with time and distance. Time does heal. The brain area that is linked to storing oxytocin and attachment becomes less active as you spend more time away from your love interest.
You must try to avoid the person if you want to end a relationship that has caused you heartbreak. Get exercise. Hugs from friends are a great way to start the day. Take a walk. You must remove the person who is in your head. The answer is not to sit in bed and eat Haagen-Dazs. You can memorize poems to keep your mind busy. Do not read the poem; memorize it. This will occupy your mind.
Romantic heartbreak is an addiction. Remove all photos, emails, texts, and numbers, and stop following that person on social networks. You can ask your friends to refrain from telling you any news that they hear about the person and to not mention their name. Some people are inclined to tell you all they know or hear about their love interest. You can ask them to refrain from doing so.
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